[Esther]

Yes ECing would be a great idea. I had my daughter at home who has Autism so didn't try it for my boy; otherwise I might have given it a try. He mostly toilet trained himself when he was nearly 2 and a half.

About the feeding thing that is all a bit of a blur. I did feed him to go back to sleep but then some nights the only way he would sleep was on my boob the whole night. When he was 2 I lessened his feeding (he was not happy about this) and then by about 27 months I weened him completely. It was a huge relief.

When you are feeling up to it you could try other means of getting her back to sleep without feeding. We tried lots of different things and found a music box helped but sometimes only a feed helped him go back to sleep. I also gave him a dummy. I found he just liked to suck while he was sleeping. He wouldn't take the dummy at first but I kept trying and now he loves them. He is a light sleeper and often during the night I hear him sucking on his dummy or he screams because he can't find it.