Kids security blankets?

[Theresa]

ditto everything!

Em is only 3.5 but I wouldn't dream of taking Pinky away from her until she wants to (and I suspect her own grandchildren may end up with Pinky!)

[Leah]

I also think your DH was wrong in not discussing it with you. And why take it away? There is nothing wrong with it IMO.

Just a thought - would he have taken it away if you had a daughter who was turning 7? Sometimes we subconsciously treat boys differently. 7 is still so young anyway.....in what seems like 5 minutes he will be asking for the keys to your car so why not let him be a child as long as he can.

Good Luck and I hope your DH can understand your point of view.

Hugs,

[mum2squish]

If Aaron want to keep his blankie... LET HIM! IT'S HIS!
It's his afterall how would DH feel if someone took away his favourite pillow/shirt/ etc. and like you said as long as its used for bedtime and not for dragging everywhere else I don't see the problem...
The youngest child I nanny for has had 2 bears that were his comforters when he was young, he decided he was happy to stop dragging them to his fathers house on weekends when he was about 8 years old, but flat out refuses to get rid of them, the still sit on his bed although he doesn't take them to bed anymore (they rather get very neatly placed side by side on his desk at night LOL!)... He is 13 years old!!!!
I should add too... at 28 years old I still have my teddy from the day I was born (he's barely intact) and he sits proudly on the shelf in my craftroom, I can't 'bear' to get rid of it, he was my version of a 'blankie'

[sunflowerchild]

Oh golly, my heart is breaking just reading that. Its the sort of thing that would happen in my house. I think that it is definitely a 'macho' thing with Dh thinking that he needs to 'man-up' and leave the 'baby' things behind.
Personally, I don't see anything wrong with it. Its a comfort and ritual thing, if it helps him fall asleep then let it go.
DS1 has a cuddly that he can't go to sleep without, and every time I wash Khatman, I pray that the washing machine will not eat him up. I've even have stood there with a hair dryer trying to get him dry for the night. One day he won't be needed anymore, but that is not my choice to make.
Tell Dh he needs to get over it and just let it go.

[mum2squish]

Originally Posted by sunflowerchild

One day he won't be needed anymore, but that is not my choice to make.

Completely agree with this quote, well worded

[mum2henry]

Everyone has somehting that is a sleep cue for them - adults and children alike. Your DH will have one and maybe it needs to be pointed out to him. Its soo much easier to go to sleep with it than without. For instance, I lay a certain way in my bed on my tummy with my "wok" rabbit crooked under an arm. My Dh sleeps a certain way and Twitches the same way every night, unconsciously and then drifts off to sleep.

H sleeps with a friend every night, various friends, but always lays on his right side with the friend under his left arm. B - well he just crashes - he has his "animals" blankie, but has no particular way to sleep.

I would point out to your DH how hard it is for him to go to sleep when things aren't the way that they normally are, and make comparisons to Aaron.

And FFS leave the kid to be a kid - kids grow up far too quick these days anyways - who wants a surly teenager that quick !!

[vanessa]

I get a bit worried washing it here too that it will fall apart but its still in one piece so far. I might give it a quick wash today while he is at school so its nice and fresh for tonight.

I did point out to him that he didn't take Samantha's blanket and she is turning 9 this year, Sam actually hid it when she found out what he had done to Aarons. I don't think he should have hidden it from him without telling him either, it was too sneaky, you need to talk to the kids about these things and if you don't see eye to eye you have to find a compromise somewhere.

Aaron is happy now I have told him blankie will stay. Dh will just have to get over it. I will talk to him later tonight when the kids have gone to bed.

[Rodent]

Immanuel has a crochet blanket that he adores (we call it his "holey blanket" ). We have to stop him dragging it around the house all day, it's for bed only. There is no way that I will ever take it away from him, no matter how old he is. It is HIS and I love that it is so special to him.

--Rodent

[Pandamum]

My DD (also 7) has her beloved "stinky". I'll never take it away from her - I don't really see it as mine to take. Some nights she doesn't have 'him' and doesn't notice but others times she's frantic if 'he's' not there.

I think you did the right thing. Shame you didn't have the opportunity to discuss it first.
And Happy Birthday to Aaron.

[Ying]

Becky has her blankie that belonged to DH over 30 yrs ago She calls it "hoon-na" and I have no idea what that means It's not even a word in any languages spoken in this house.

I have no problem with her being attached to it. The only thing I don't like about is that she has to have it all day and keeps dragging it around the house. She also wants to take it when we go out and I refused it, gave in and put up with it, etc. until recently I have make her put it in a small backpack and she has to carry it when we're out It works all right so far.

I agree, 7 yrs old is still so young. I'd rather my kid be a kid than growing up into a teenager!