Kids security blankets?

[vanessa]

Aaron has had his blankie since birth it was just a $20 one from Big w but he has always love it. It is looking a bit worse for wear with holes and is not quite yellow anymore .

Aarons dad told him a couple of days ago that when he turns 7 (which is today) he is going to throw that blanket out. He didn't talk to me about it and I disagree with that, as long as its not dragged around all day and only used for night time I am fine with it.

Anyway when Aaron went to bed tonight wayne had hidden it and poor aaron went to bed crying. He had just had a great b'day party and now he has to cry himself to sleep.

To cut a long story short I sided with aaron and wayne finally relented to give it back to him. He is now because I didn't support him in this decision. I probably should have but its not like he discussed it with me first. I am always the one to make the decisions in this house regarding the kids not him so I felt a bit put out when he decided to do this without me. Having said that I didn't get it back because of that reason I truly don't see any harm in it.

So , I am just wondering what you lovely ladies think? Should I have been stronger? Sam and Ryan have a blanket too, they don't love it as much as aaron does but they would still be put out if we got rid of them and wayne didn't even touch theirs.

When aaron asked for it back wayne said why should I give it back to you when you can't even say hello to me in the afternoon or give me a cuddle goodnight.. I sometimes wonder who is the child here.

Thanks

[mum2miya]

Men can be so ridiculous sometimes! I know my DH hates to be wrong...even when he knows he is. I would have done the same thing in your place Vanessa. I don't see the harm in a blankie - esp when it's just for night. Hopefully it will have all blown over by the morning.

[hayley79]

Why does Dad want to take the blanket away?
If it's only for bedtime, and helps him feel good and feel secure, i dont' think it is such a bad thing...
We all have little things that help to make us feel good.
I think you did the right thing
Our DD has 2 rabbits she sleeps with...she just loves them SOOOOOOO much and would be completely devestated should we take them away from her.....
I think that the time will eventually come, when they are ready to "let go" of their security object, but it is not something someone else can dictate.
LIke you say, there really is no harm in having that security object, and he was obviously really distressed to have it taken away from him...
I think you did the right thing

[~*Rebecca*~]

Dads don't always have to deal with the day to day stuff and i'm like you would feel that he is having it his way and then nicks off to work all day and leave me to deal with the mess.

We had a similar incident for a few months Neve loves having 3 pillows. I didn;'t see the issue but whenever dad put her to bed it would end in tears cause he was trying to take one of the pillows away. I in the end had to go down there and insist he put it back . He was worried it would hurt her neck but I pointed out to him that have you noticed that when she is actually asleep she doens't use any of them , so i didn't see it as a big deal.

I don't see the blanket as an issue if it is just used for night. In all honesty he might get rid of it if is is asked for a sleepover and a friend mentions it.

I wouldn;t be too concerned.

[zoekisses]

I still have my teddy he has lost weight due to age and is thin in patches but he does monster gard duty for all of my children and now is in our baby's room standing gard as always

My 20 year old daughter has her doll who has seen her though good times and bad the doll has been in doll hospital a few times but she is part of my oldest daughters life and she wont let go of her.

My boys still have thier teddies and special toys that they sleep with.

And my baby girl has to have her tiger and gollywog.

I only have one daughter who hasn't got a comfort toy.

Blankies are special my niece has hers still its bits are in a quilt made by her nana.

Those things are special parts of child hood to be cherished and remembered because our babies grow up so fast and blankies and comfort toys hold all our special memories and secrets.

[Pobie]

Keep the snuggle He will get rid of it when he is ready. Its not causing him any emotional or health problems so whats the problem with it. I agree with a previous poster, when he starts having friends who sleep over etc I am sure he will eventually get rid of it (or replace it with something else that NOBODY knows about LOL)

[lindys]

Vanessa I think your DH was out of line. He may not have realised the significance of the blankie to Aaron? (if he did, then why not discuss it with you first?). You did the right thing, your little man deserves comfort in whatever form it comes! Is it a macho type thing? (big boys don't cry/need comfort, etc, blah, blah?). Hugs

[vanessa]

Thanks Hubby has gone to bed cranky and will sook for a few days but will eventually get over it. I think he has other issues he needs to deal with instead of this one.

And aaron is sleeping peacefully with his blanky in his hand

I think he will get rid of it when he doesn't need/want it anymore.

Thanks again

[vanessa]

Originally Posted by lindys

Is it a macho type thing? (big boys don't cry/need comfort, etc, blah, blah?). Hugs

Dh has commented on a few things the last few days about him needing to grow up and act older He is only 7 I say let him be himself and a kid as long as you can. They grow up way to soon.

[lindys]

Spot on- who want to be a bloody grown up?! I am totally with you Vanessa, he needs to cherish his childhood.