i cant find the right place to vent!

[MadMumof3]

ARRGGGHHHHHH Does anyone want a toddler free to good home!

liam is driving me mental i have tried that many ways to get him to behave incl ignoring him, time out, counting to 3, sent to bed, admit i have smacked him when it gets that bad, taken away toys, and yet he still gives me the shits constantly.

he wont leave the cats alone, he wont leave his brother alone, he wont listen to me at all i have to repet myslelf 100 times a day.

he gets angry , hits me , his brother and anyone else in hitting distance. he is a very intelligent child and i do a lot to stimulate him during the day. he has puzzles books etc readily available and heaps of imagination play toys. we dance sing and play together and yet when i want 2 seconds to myself he becomes horrid. its not like i ask much just occasionally to listen and do something the 10th time i ask him not the 100th!

and now kaelin is mobile he's even worse!

aarrrrrgggghhhh going mental here and its that time of night we all dread too!

any suggestions on behavioural issues would help! !

ok well off to tackle the dinner time tanties!

[MadMumof3]

well atleast dp is home and he can deal with him! thank goodness the babysitter is giving me 3 hrs time out tonight . ( going to a craft nite and dp is out too)

[marnie]

ooooh I hear ya! LOL! My boys are the same - I could have written your post some nights.

Lachlan is 4 (26/11/01) and Cody is 2 (12/12/03) So they are just a stage ahead of you. That said, Cody is now my challenge as Lachlan is getting a lot easier to reason with. I think maybe a great deal of it has to do with their age and just think of it this way, the very fact that you are concerned about his behaviour and that you expect him to behave better than that means that you care and that you are doing a great job! He will come out of the other side of these "terrible two's" (at least that's what I tell myself ) As far as how to get them to listen and do something the first time you ask... well I'm not sure that's ever going away so if you figure it out, let me know LOL!

Marnie

[MadMumof3]

lol i never said tthe 1st time i ask but atleast the 10th or so not the 100th hehe! thanks i know it is just a phase but omg i cant believe how horrid he is being atm! funnily enough tho he's an angel when we go out!

[marnie]

oooooh, yeah, so then you vent to your friends about it and they're all like - "who Cody? no way!! He's beautiful/such a good boy/so quiet (they obviously don't know him as I do - LOL)

Marnie

[Kristie]

Boarding school LOL Aaliyah will be 3 on tuesday boy do i know it the attude shuch a little miss.

[~*Rebecca*~]

Wait till they get to 8. No reasoning there.

Totally understand where you are coming from I'm sure the only tone they hear in this house is a "loud one".

Morgan will then look at me and say "why are you yelling". Mind you I have only been asking the same thing for the last 1/2hour and repeated myself at least 10 times.

[~karen~]

have you tried *not* repeating yourself?
ie. ask once, then help the next time
so they work out that if mum asks it's going to happen?
maybe the repetition is backfiring?
just a thought
hugs
kaz

[bamboogal]

Have you tried ignoring him when he gets troublesome. Even though its negative attention you give him when he misbehaves, he may still be doing these things for attention.

It's even harder to ignore the bad stuff when they're mashing food into the carpet or hitting, but if its attention he's seeking then the behaviour will stop when he doesn't get the attention. If he hits you or Kaelin, just walk away.

Thats my suggestion. Some people think i'm nuts, but i've seen this strategy work, takes patience.

[emmabrice]

Just love 'em and wait. My eldest was similar at two, now at four is a little angel, just them trying to suss out the world, their boundaries etc. remember they are little people learning how to be big people, it's a scary world out there so just be patient with them, they grow out of it as they grow into themselves!