what to do when they regress

[~Carolyn~]

Tyler has been TT for about 4 months now, he has just turned 3 on Boxing day. He also has toddler diaroah- so when he screams "poos" everone bolts coz he means buisness!

anyway- the last few days we are getting none in the loo at all. No wee or poo at times he doesnt even tell us he has weed, just find him with no pants (which is not uncommon) ask him where they are and he says "wet". carpet, outside whatever. Luckily we are not going anywhere!

we really dont know what to do. Do you discipline him? put him back into nappies? he was one that neer responded to regular toileting- so i dont want to try that one. But i am lost as to what to do.

[MadMumof3]

hmmm. maybe put him back in until he is more aware? we arejust starting with kaelin but we had that situation with liam a little ( more at nights).
i find with kaelin seeing as we are only new to tting him ( about a mth & 1/2 ) that i take him or atleast ask him and when i dont he has an accident. maybe he needs reminding more often??

[Sheree Scott]

Hi there.
What a pity. Mine haven't regressed like that, but given he has been unwell with diahrea, (or is it a chronic condition?) I would say he needs time to get well and get back all the normal sensations and movements for wee and poo. He might have got disallusioned.
I don't know what the early childhood nurse answer would be or what "the books" would say, but I would ask him if he would like to use nappies again until he feels better. Unless it is clearly a behavioural response and you think he is consciously refusing to use the toilet in a rebelious way I wouldn't punish him, just keep the training up or have a break from it.
My DD1 had a few more accidents when we moved house when she had been TT for about 2 months but we were using pull ups on her anyway, so we just reassured her and encouraged the successes. Within a month she was back to her normal ability and was wearing pants to Preschool half day. (Despite a nervous Mum!!)

They are all different in how they learn about their bodies and react to situations.

Hope he is back to TT very soon, but I suppose at least it is summer weather,

cheers,

[Eilleen]

I did what Sheree said, I asked my Jade what she would prefer when she regressed from being completely toilet aware (day and night) to wetting her bed every night. She said she wanted to go back into nappies so I did. She didn't have an illness when she regressed, she had started school. While she loved school from the very beginning, it seemed to me that she was still coping with the change and her toilet awareness suffered for it. Then she got caught in a cycle where she was stressed 'cause she wet the bed and so was stressed going to bed etc. Going into nappies at night helped her relax about this and we just concentrated on her experiences at school. It took a year (yes, a year) before she was willing to give up her night nappies again.

I'm pretty laid back about stuff like that though. I tend to think that my kids know their bodies and what they can cope with more than me, so while I ask and encourage toilet awareness, I let it go if they don't want to.

I can understand your frustration though. I was really over nappies with Sean way before he was ready to get over them! Still, I'm glad I did it that way and wouldn't change a thing.

[innod]

i have the same thing here
we had daycare issues where she refused to even sit on the toilet there and waited for sleep nappy to wee.
day care seemed to be going fine but now she just goes where ever she is kmart today in the middle of the toy aisle
i don't want to put her back into nappies cause i think she is not wanting to miss anything as her brother is home on holidays.
we have the same where she doesnt even say she has wee'd actually i will ask her and she will say no yet she is standing in a puddle with wet knickers on

[~Carolyn~]

the diaroea is not new. He has had it for years, and its not hurting him and hes not unwell with it either. We see a specialist for it and its looking like its "toddler diarroea". so thats not the reason he regressed.
the only thing i can think of is coz im bout to have another bub.
i asked him if he wanted nappies and i got a stern NO!

he will go when i force him to go- like going back to TT, but this is so strange to go from nearly night trained to completely oblivious!

[innod]

i was chatting to one of the carers at my dds day care and she said it's not un common as they know they can do it so it's not exciting any more and they are learning other things like more words or are starting to play differently so that part of the brain is being switched on like my dd is really into pretending atm shes mummy to everything and she is starting to play in the kids kitchen pretending to cook(real technical terms i know) so maybe brain overload?????????
so the advice i was given is to go back to the constantly reminding them and not taking NO for an answer as when i ask if she has done wees and she says NO but is standing in a puddle
just take them and they should get back on track
ui personally don't want to go back to nappies and i don't think she would leave them on any way

[MGlatte]

Kids go through different stages. Try to be relaxed when it happens, although it can be very frustrating I know. I still have to remind Eden through the day because he gets very involved in playing. When he does occassionally wet his pants he will come and tell us (which is great) and we don't make a big deal about it.

[vanessa]

Rachel is going through the same thing now, very frustrating! i am finding with her though its having the kids home she doesn't have time to go to the toilet. I had 6 pairs of pooey undies to wash yesterday.

She is having an undie free day today I have told her that when she uses the toilet properly she can start wearing undies until then its just dresses so at least when she is going it will make her more aware she needs to stop and go.

Its worked so far today, no accidents (that i know of anyway )

I am sure it will click back in soon. I hope it does

[~Carolyn~]

ok it has been weeks now and is still regressed. Not getting poo in the loo at all! he now tells me sometimes, and is getting some wees in the loo. He does not want nappies and he is not unwell

what are we doing wrong.

regression is not meant to be weeks!

he is ready btw! he was TT for months!